I was first introduced to the Balance Triangle in high school. My dad sat my family down one night and all the kids gathered around him with his pen and blank piece of paper. We intently watched as he simply drew 3 long lines that each connected at a point, making a triangle. He wrote one word above each connecting point: body, mind, spirit. In the middle of the triangle he wrote the word, balance. I wish I wouldn’t have been as stubborn or uninterested at the time because if I would have applied this simple lesson a lot earlier in life, a lot of my problems would have been solved much sooner!
My dad began to explain to us that in order to have a happy and well rounded life, we need to find balance in each of these areas. If we focus too much on one area and neglect another we become lopsided and very unbalanced. This can then lead to being overwhelmed, unstable, an emotional roller coaster, unhealthy and basically lacking the necessary factors that boost the other areas of the triangle. He asked us to then to sit down and consider which areas we were excelling in and what areas we could nurture a bit more. I remember filling the body side with dance, running, exercise, hiking, and eating healthy. There really wasn’t enough room to squeeze anything else in that category. But I couldn’t seem to fill the other categories (mind and spirit) with nearly as many fun and exciting things. It hit me that I was lacking in an overall balance in my life but being a typical a teenager, I decided to ignore it. Then began my years of stress, anxiety, low self esteem, heart ache, and many other negative feelings.
I truly believe that this easy concept is quite powerful and works if you are willing to apply it. For so long I was overly obsessed with this idea of having to look perfect and be perfect that I actually ruined myself. I compared myself to everyone. I thought that if I worked out hours and hours a day that I would eventually get skinny and I would be happy. SO WRONG!!!! I ended up gaining a ton of weight, I was binge eating because I was depressed, and I completely lost sight of who I was as a person and all that I had to offer. I’ve really tried this past year and especially these past few months to focus on equalizing all sides of my triangle, and to be honest I have never been happier!! It is a lot easier said than done, but man is it worth it!! If you have even just a few minutes, I would suggest sitting down and writing out your own triangle. See which areas are stronger and which ones are weaker. I’m a visual learner so I retain more when I see it for myself. It might help you to see for yourself where you are at with your balance triangle.
In my next few posts I will be breaking down these three key areas and share what I’ve done to equalize my triangle! I’m still a work in progress… I think I have an emotional break down at least once a week. But that’s fine. I’ve learned to accept that it’s ok to be a human being with struggles and feelings. As long as I’m constantly striving to better myself, I feel content with being an occasional cry baby!
Stay tuned for my next post. You guys have been begging me to tell you about my nutrition and fitness plan. I can’t wait to share how I finally learned how to do it the RIGHT way!