December 23, 2016

How’s Your Well-Being?

glul8365I especially love this time of year because I feel as if everyone’s well-being tends to be more joyful, full of charity, and very festive! November, we get to reflect on gratitude and have a heart of thanksgiving. December, we get to celebrate religiously (or in other ways) the beautiful time of year. By surrounding ourselves with family and loved ones we can spread Christmas love all around. And then January hits – and we get to start over and make new resolutions for the new year!! I am the first to admit I struggle being this enthusiastic the remaining 10 months of the year. As most of my family knows, I am a worrier. I worry about little everyday things, I worry about big decisions I have to make, I worry about the people surrounding me, and I worry about the future. When this worry gets out of hand I lose all control of my emotions. I think it all stems from this constant fear of failure. I have always felt encouragement and been driven to work hard but nobody has ever put this pressure or fear of failure on me other than myself. For so long I thought something was wrong with me and I never felt as if I was good enough.

The word “depression” always sounded like a disability to me. And I’m not talking about the typical teenager excuse “Ugh, Im so depressed” emo phase we all go through. But the real chemical imbalance never sounded like something I ever wanted to admit I struggled with. For most of my life I tried to push these feelings aside and pretend I was fine. I would hide behind bad decisions and fake facades but the more I did this the more I struggled with stress, anxiety, and depression. It took a few years to actually come to the realization that this was something I truly needed to address and come to terms with. It turns out that more people than not also struggle with some form of depression or anxiety throughout their life… believe me when I tell you that you would be shocked to know how many people go through similar situations. All cases are different and I wasn’t to the point where I needed to be medicated, but I was encouraged to do some self evaluating to see what was triggering some of these spurts of sadness and stress. Through this whole process I have learned to surround myself with people who better me, do things that make me truly happy, and value my own self-worth.

First, we definitely can become a product of our surroundings. I know I probably sound like a broken record by mentioning them all the time but I seriously have the most amazing family. They have been my support system and shoulder to cry on my whole life. They are the greatest examples for me to look up to and strive to be like. But we don’t just surround ourselves with family members. Our friends, coworkers, and significant others are a huge factor on our well-being. Choose to be with people who share similar goals and who motivate you to be your best self. Have friends who make you laugh and smile from ear to ear. One of my best friends is Lindsay Arnold Cusick. We have known each other since we were 5 years old. She has remained one of the most loyal friends I have ever had. One of my favorite things about Lindsay is her security and understanding of herself. She doesn’t worry about what other people think of her because she is so comfortable in her own skin. Because of this, she is also one of the most supportive friends because she genuinely wants to see me do well and isn’t worried about comparing herself. Find a friend like Lindsay and your days will be filled with sheer and utter happiness! Relationships can also make or break you. I have had some absolutely amazing relationships and I have also had some pretty toxic relationships. I have found that if you feel you need to become “someone else” in a relationship, RUN!! Be changed for the better by someone, not for the worse. If you feel even the slightest feelings of insecurity, self doubt, or under appreciation, you are way better off without that person. Don’t follow my example and remain in a one sided relationship that ends up destroying you. (I have sooooo much to say about this topic. In a few weeks we will dive deeper into relationships! I can’t wait.)

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When I was in one of my darkest depression phases I met with a Chinese Medicine Doctor who I did acupuncture with and other stress relieving treatments. She told me the only way for me to be outwardly happy was to cleanse myself from the inside out. She told me to write down all of the activities/hobbies I was good at and that made me truly happy. After I created a list in my journal she told me to read them everyday when I would wake up and make sure I did a few, if not all of them, everyday. Sometimes we tend to focus on all of the things we aren’t good at and can’t do that we lose sight of what we actually CAN do. My list consisted of performing on stage, photography, writing in my journal, being an aunt, running in the morning, FaceTiming my sisters, traveling, baking cookies, doing service projects, etc. By focusing on these things we love to do we are able to eliminate the stress of inadequacy. I suggest you write a list for yourself and see how truly amazing you are!

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Last but not least, don’t ever doubt your self worth! Be confident in who you are as a person and all that you have to offer. These past few months I have chosen to love myself more. I love to take care and fix other people but I always forget about loving and fixing myself. It feels a little selfish at first but I have never valued myself and my well-being more than now. I am so proud of who I am and where my journey has taken me. Through the good and the bad I have made it here and I love being Jenna. This is the first time in my life that I feel completely happy in my own skin and confident in all that I have to offer. Have a beautiful Christmas you guys! I love you all SO much!

“Always Remember:
You are Beautiful
You are Worthy
You are Important
You are Special
You are Unique
You are Wonderful
You are Talented
and You are Irreplaceable”

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26 thoughts on “How’s Your Well-Being?

    1. Jenna beatiful message to start the year
      Also enjoyed watching the whole cast of DWTS in Orlando
      Loved your performance with the guys and message s–“exuding confidence!”

      Jen from Orlando

  1. Thank you so much for this!!! I have found myself in a huge dark place and then stumbled upon your blog. One of the best things I have found. I am already a fan from watching you on DWTS, but reading your articles really bring some light to my life. I am also beginning to gain a deeper insight into my own distresses and you are very inspirational to me. Again, thank you, and may God continue to bless you and your beautiful soul.

  2. In a plane – when the masks drop – they tell you to put yours on before you help your loved-ones. On the surface, this seems like a very selfish maneuver, but it’s overwhelmingly practical and healthy. How can you help your loved ones if you pass-out in the attempt. We often feel that helping ourselves is selfish and not in the common-good, but it’s actually the most necessary first step to helping others. What are your gifts? What are your strengths? If you don’t know, then what use are you to others? Discovering these positives about yourself, and constantly examining them, reinforcing and strengthening them, puts you in a much better position to be of help to others. You are an amazing artist; and, by reading your writing, you are an amazing ‘human being’ too. Be Well. Be Happy.

  3. I love you Jennah!!! Thank you for inspiring me to be a better version of myself. and thank you for all the honesty of you own journey. It it has been motivating and inspirational to me in so many ways. I think if I had to have any one friend to pick to help me be comfortable with myself I would pick someone like you!

  4. Wow! This blogs comes in the best moments when we need someone who told me I am worth it!! Thank you Jenna for encoruging us to be a better person! As you I am always worry about others and wanting to fix everyone life but sometimes I forget to fix myself! So thank you for reminded me to also think about myself and my worth being!!

  5. I really needed this today, thank you for being strong enough to share your struggles and making people like me feel a little less alone. I appreciate every word.
    Merry Christmas💕

  6. Jenna, you are wise beyond your years. You even give an old broad like me something to thing about. Merry Christmas 🎄 and God bless.

  7. Wow! Such a feel good read. Thank you not only for sharing an in-depth view of your struggles and triumphs but also for reminding us that loving ourselves should be a top priority. I, too, am always wanting to help others and sometimes find myself forgetting that I’m worth the same time and effort I give to others. This is a great reminder that we need to keep filling our bucket. Thank you! Merry Christmas🎄

  8. Jenna, I have been a fan since you were on SYTYCD. I need this post more than ever. I too was a dancer and now an a certified yoga instructor. But I have been dealing with depression and anxiety the last few years. It’s so hard to come out of it on your own when you’re in a rut. How did you manage to do it? I have been learning that your circle, your tribe if you wish is so important. But there are very few friends or people that can relate and truly understand and be there for me. Thank you for your post. I’d love to hear back from you. Love you on DWTS!! Keep up with what you are doing. Your honesty means a lot. Namaste!

  9. Thank you for being so real I been through this too Jenna and survive you are a beautiful amazing young lady and so strong I look forward to reading your blog you don’t know how much you’re helping other bless you.❤❤❤🙌👏👏👏

  10. Wow Jenna I really love this. I love how personal your blog is and that you share your imperfections or struggles or realizations with us. It comforts me that someone as glamorous and successful as you has moments of worry and sadness. I worry that I am messed up for having these moments but you have made me realize that it is part of being a human and it doesn’t have to stop me. Thank you!!!! I am going to go make the list right now of things I love to do and am good at!

  11. Honestly thank you so much for doing this blog. Each week you are discussing subjects that I have been struggling with & reading your experiences & your advice for steps to take help so much. I’m so glad you created this blog, it truly gives me a place where I can look for help. I can’t wait to see what else you write about

  12. Even though I’m old enough to be your mother, your wise words have truly inspired me. This past year has been a very difficult one for me and my family, but remembering to give thanks and count your blessings each and every day is what has gotten us through. I wish everyone a blessed holiday and a new year filled with joy and health.

  13. Hi Jenna,
    First of all I’m loving this blog so much!! Every time I read it, it makes me think of ways to better myself and to face whatever is going on in my life wether it be goals I want to pursue or actual situations that are happening right now.
    I really look up to you in a older sister type of way, which is so cool and crazy considering we have never met (obviously and unfortunately).
    The blog is helping me realize a lot of things about myself, or at least how I want to be, so it’s really helping me.
    Please continue to keep it real because it’s helping others a lot to do the same.
    Also it’s safe to say that you and all the other pros on DWTS have motivated me to decide and learn how to ballroom dance, which for me is super intimidating and scary but 2017 is going to be me dancing my ass off, literally.
    I hope you have an amazing time on tour with everyone, and to all on this blog to make 2017 awesome.
    Love you!!!!
    PS come to Spain so we can meet 🙂

  14. This post really struck a chord with me …I struggle with severe depression that came from being away from my family when I went off to college . Like you, family means the world to me . I will try the list right away , but to be honest there are times where my self confidence is utterly empty . Reading your posts lifts me up enough to keep fighting day by day . Thank you Jenna, hope you had a great Christmas ❤️💕

  15. Just catching up on your posts now. This was beautiful and inspiring! I am doing what you a suggested and giving up certain foods for the month of January and I already feel so great about my meal planning and sticking to the plan. Taking it one step at a time, but your 5 days of 30 minutes of exercise is next and loving myself with come with it, hopefully! Thank you for your posts. You’re helping me so much!!

  16. thank you so much for sharing this with us! for the past few months, I’ve been feeling like I’m not needed in this world and no one even cares about me… now that I’ve read this I do feel like I am good enough! I hope you had an amazing time with your family and enjoy the rest of tour!!

    Ps. Tell sharna I said hi💞

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