January 28, 2017

Love Yourself – Your Life Depends On It

Love Yourself

My mom really struggled (or she claims she did) Christmas shopping for me this year. She dislikes shopping for me in general because I am very particular with what I like/don’t like and it’s usually best if I just shop for myself. But she is the cutest little angel and always nails our Christmas surprises. This year she geared most of my gifts towards my blog because she knows how passionate I am about it and how happy it makes me. One of my most favorite gifts of all was a big box filled with at least 12 books that were inspiring and would give me even more information to learn for myself and then share with you! These books ranged from decluttering your mind to nutrition and health tips. She is the absolute best! I headed back on tour with an even heavier suitcase but was so grateful for her thoughtfulness. I have to admit, these past few weeks on tour have been insanity due to sickness, performing at Radio City, double show days, traveling across the Canadian border, and overall tiring hours. Since Christmas, I still hadn’t made it around to reading any of my moms books… (sorry Mom). Finally, things calmed down this week and I pulled out the first book I saw. “Love Yourself – Like Your Life Depends On It” by Kamal Ravikant. Man am I happy I chose this one first. I say this often but I am a firm believer in things happening for a reason. I don’t necessarily believe in mere coincidences. I needed this book SO much in my life right now.

I usually don’t scribble in books but I have almost every page of this book underlined or written on. This book seriously spoke to me. I couldn’t put this book down and would even read it in between my numbers backstage! It is that good! I don’t want to give it all away because I seriously recommend this incredible read to everyone, but in a nutshell it is the real story about how a man thought he had lost everything. He was experiencing sickness, heartache, grieving a friends death, supporting his failing company. Everything was going wrong. After much depression and sadness he decided he had had enough and made a vow to himself that ended up changing his life forever. He wrote it down on a piece of paper and ever since that day he has committed to the promise to love himself. Repeating the phrase “I love myself” over and over again in his mind. At times even saying it out loud. The constant reminder eventually turned into a natural habit and acceptance of loving himself. He said he went from a month of misery to his whole world changing right before his eyes. He got back into shape, things naturally fell into place for him, and he was beaming with happiness. He even describes his life as pure magic.

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This concept blew my mind. How simple, right? But when I thought about it…. do I really love myself whole heartedly? Do I tell myself daily that “I love myself”? He asked a question in the book, “If I loved myself truly and deeply, would I let myself experience this?” For me, the answer more so than not would be a huge NO! It’s amazing what we let our own being endure. We don’t need to have these constant critical thoughts about ourselves, we don’t need to compare what we do or don’t have to somebody else, we don’t need to reflect on the past and beat ourselves up over it. If we really loved ourselves, we would be secure enough to let it go. Be confident in the now and love ourselves! I am the type of person who loves to love others. Usually more than myself. Especially when I think I’m “in love” I feel so deeply for that person and want to give them the world. This paragraph struck me when Kamal said, “The love, it doesn’t have to necessarily be for another, does it? Love is an emotion, love is a feeling, love is a way of being. That spring in the step, that smile, that openess, can’t it simply come from loving ourselves?” He goes on to explain that we have this ingrained thought that we need to be in love with another person to feel happy and free. But truly the most important relationship we will ever have is our own relationship with ourselves. He then says, “When we love ourselves, we naturally shine, we are naturally beautiful. And that draws others to us. Before we know it, they’re loving us and it’s up to us to choose who to share our love with.”

After I finished this book, I ran to my journal and wrote down the same vow that he made. I put it on the front page so I could read it and remind myself of the promise I’m making everyday.


This past week I have also been practicing saying, “I love myself” throughout my days. Anytime a negative thought about myself or someone else circles around my head I immediately repeat “I love myself, I love myself, I love myself” and the thought gets pushed away. It really is incredible how much happier and at ease I feel with myself as well. I challenge you to first read this outstanding book, make a vow to yourself, and then FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF! Let your love for yourself shine for the world to see. Now, loving yourself the right way doesn’t mean you are prideful and have a huge ego…. to me it means that you aware of your flaws, your insecurities, your short comings, and you accept them for what they are worth. You learn from them. But most importantly, you love yourself through the process. I hope someone needed this message as much as I did! I love you guys 🙂


19 thoughts on “Love Yourself – Your Life Depends On It

  1. Wow! After I’ve just read this amazing review, I’m getting dressed right now, going to the book store and getting this book. Jenna, thank you for inspiring me to love myself and making me read this amazing book. I look forward to reading it and I will let you know how I think it is. I’m certain I’ll love it because you love it!

  2. I just have to say, you’re such an amazing writer! I love how much you describe your experiences and what you’ve learned in every post! This is amazing and I simply have to check out this book now! Thank you Jenna 💕

  3. Thank you Jenna yes I needed that and I will read this amazing book .I truly believe if you love your self whole hearted you do shine look at you I’m so proud of you and now it’s my time to shine because I love me.

  4. Such an inspiring story! Thanks so much for sharing every beautiful thing you find. I’ll absolutely be sure to check it out right after I finish reading “Dear Woman” much love for you Jencakes!❤️😘

  5. Just in time….. thank you so much Jenna ❤️

    Since i live outside of the US i will try ordering the book asap!! I love you and thank you again so much. ❤️💕

    Always so inspiring….

    Abeer (@getrealwithjenn)

  6. I think somewhere along my life I thought the end gAme was getting married and having a family. I love my husband and I love my kids but I don’t love myself as much as I should. I feel like I never have. I’m going to read this book!! I focus too much on my flaws and not about what I’m doing right.

  7. This was the best way to start my day! I would definitely would start to say to myself “I love myself”. Sometimes we get influence by our family traditions and culture of raising us to have a husband and children. But they often forget to tell you to love yourself and being comfortable in your skin. So thank you for reminding me what is important in life. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  8. This post really spoke to me! I’ve never thought that I didn’t love myself, but I’ve been struggling with my body lately bc I started getting fit again and I ended up losing 9 pounds in about 2-3 weeks but about 2 days ago I looked in the mirror and thought I needed to lose more weight and that I didn’t look healthy. This opened my eyes and showed me that I do need to say I love myself everyday. Thank you for this post!! You have been so inspiring to me! I’ll definitely be picking this book up!

  9. Omg my fav post thus far!!! (All your post are amazing) but I needed this one! Can’t wait to read this book! Thank You Gorgeous! xoxo

  10. Wow! You are truly inspirational! I don’t scribble in books either, and since you did scribble in this one, I have decided that I want my own copy! Thank you for recommending it.

  11. Amazing!! Like I said in other coment I been finding myself on your posts. This one reflects a lot my own actions. I been devoting my whole life to please everyone and making they are all happy. But manny times that ment erasing myself. Put my needs aside. I dont regret for what I did to my loved ones but I caught myself many times upset and annoyed. When I divorced I turned 30 and I tought that would be a great decade where I would truly find myself. Wrong. I did a lots of mistakes and I still saying no for many situations. I know I’m the only one who can make the change but is so hard to commit to myself. It is much easier just pretend that I’m ok and give all the excuses. I”m 33years old and I cant do this anymore. I need to Love Myself so I can reflect positive fellings and still be there for others w/o any regrets. Thank you for the reference.


  12. This made me want to cry. I always feel like I give so much love to others and love whole souled but pick people poorly so I get fractured love in return. 😞 I need to work on loving me truly and not thinking I need to be a certain way to be loved enough. Thanks Jenna much love

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