My mom really struggled (or she claims she did) Christmas shopping for me this year. She dislikes shopping for me in general because I am very particular with what I like/don’t like and it’s usually best if I just shop for myself. But she is the cutest little angel and always nails our Christmas surprises. This year she geared most of my gifts towards my blog because she knows how passionate I am about it and how happy it makes me. One of my most favorite gifts of all was a big box filled with at least 12 books that were inspiring and would give me even more information to learn for myself and then share with you! These books ranged from decluttering your mind to nutrition and health tips. She is the absolute best! I headed back on tour with an even heavier suitcase but was so grateful for her thoughtfulness. I have to admit, these past few weeks on tour have been insanity due to sickness, performing at Radio City, double show days, traveling across the Canadian border, and overall tiring hours. Since Christmas, I still hadn’t made it around to reading any of my moms books… (sorry Mom). Finally, things calmed down this week and I pulled out the first book I saw. “Love Yourself – Like Your Life Depends On It” by Kamal Ravikant. Man am I happy I chose this one first. I say this often but I am a firm believer in things happening for a reason. I don’t necessarily believe in mere coincidences. I needed this book SO much in my life right now.
I usually don’t scribble in books but I have almost every page of this book underlined or written on. This book seriously spoke to me. I couldn’t put this book down and would even read it in between my numbers backstage! It is that good! I don’t want to give it all away because I seriously recommend this incredible read to everyone, but in a nutshell it is the real story about how a man thought he had lost everything. He was experiencing sickness, heartache, grieving a friends death, supporting his failing company. Everything was going wrong. After much depression and sadness he decided he had had enough and made a vow to himself that ended up changing his life forever. He wrote it down on a piece of paper and ever since that day he has committed to the promise to love himself. Repeating the phrase “I love myself” over and over again in his mind. At times even saying it out loud. The constant reminder eventually turned into a natural habit and acceptance of loving himself. He said he went from a month of misery to his whole world changing right before his eyes. He got back into shape, things naturally fell into place for him, and he was beaming with happiness. He even describes his life as pure magic.
This concept blew my mind. How simple, right? But when I thought about it…. do I really love myself whole heartedly? Do I tell myself daily that “I love myself”? He asked a question in the book, “If I loved myself truly and deeply, would I let myself experience this?” For me, the answer more so than not would be a huge NO! It’s amazing what we let our own being endure. We don’t need to have these constant critical thoughts about ourselves, we don’t need to compare what we do or don’t have to somebody else, we don’t need to reflect on the past and beat ourselves up over it. If we really loved ourselves, we would be secure enough to let it go. Be confident in the now and love ourselves! I am the type of person who loves to love others. Usually more than myself. Especially when I think I’m “in love” I feel so deeply for that person and want to give them the world. This paragraph struck me when Kamal said, “The love, it doesn’t have to necessarily be for another, does it? Love is an emotion, love is a feeling, love is a way of being. That spring in the step, that smile, that openess, can’t it simply come from loving ourselves?” He goes on to explain that we have this ingrained thought that we need to be in love with another person to feel happy and free. But truly the most important relationship we will ever have is our own relationship with ourselves. He then says, “When we love ourselves, we naturally shine, we are naturally beautiful. And that draws others to us. Before we know it, they’re loving us and it’s up to us to choose who to share our love with.”
After I finished this book, I ran to my journal and wrote down the same vow that he made. I put it on the front page so I could read it and remind myself of the promise I’m making everyday.
This past week I have also been practicing saying, “I love myself” throughout my days. Anytime a negative thought about myself or someone else circles around my head I immediately repeat “I love myself, I love myself, I love myself” and the thought gets pushed away. It really is incredible how much happier and at ease I feel with myself as well. I challenge you to first read this outstanding book, make a vow to yourself, and then FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF! Let your love for yourself shine for the world to see. Now, loving yourself the right way doesn’t mean you are prideful and have a huge ego…. to me it means that you aware of your flaws, your insecurities, your short comings, and you accept them for what they are worth. You learn from them. But most importantly, you love yourself through the process. I hope someone needed this message as much as I did! I love you guys 🙂